we are now just over one week into this new year. for different people that means different things including still being in that process of wanting to bring something fresh into your life, starting a new habit or initiative, or feeling guilty about not keeping one up, etc. i’m going to out myself with my new […]
How do we make sense of a major disappointment or something that goes terribly wrong? Do we let it poison our motivation and give up? Or do we see it as a opportunity for growth? In the New York Times Book Review article “Epic Fail,” Scott Sandage reviews two books that address this question: “How do we learn to stop worrying and […]
Esther Perel’s intriguing 19 minute TED talk about desire, radiance, eroticism, and the poetics of sex in long-term relationships. In it, she talks about the commonalities of when people are most drawn to their partner and what comes from people answering the following prompts: “I shut myself off when…” “I turn off my desires when…” […]
“Little haters” seem to exist all around, so it makes sense they’d also be heard in our minds. The host of WBAI‘s “Underground Railroad,” Jay Smooth, made these two great 3-4 minute videos about those “little haters.” Check them out.
We all make mistakes, we all screw up, and we all do and say things that hurt people. If you also like to be right (and admitting a mistake or a wrongdoing is hard for you), than this might be for you. (And you are in such good company.) The Gottmans, from their invaluable research with […]
what are the ways we can shift gears in our thinking, our being, our “stuckness” that sometimes gets the best of us? this is a question i think of often when i hear how people keep getting stuck in old patterns of thinking and want out — whether they feel like they are stuck in […]