click here to read the intro on the Four Horsemen 2. Contempt The Gottman’s describe contempt as “coming from a superior position” and being “fueled by long-simmering negative thoughts about the partner.” “Contempt is poisonous to a relationship because it conveys disgust. It seems strong, yes, but contempt is a sneaky little guy that can […]
Month: August 2012
1 of 4, The Four Horsemen: Criticism
click here to read the intro on the Four Horsemen 1. Criticism is a “broad-based attack on a person’s character.” The Gottman’s also see criticism as stating a “defect in one’s partner’s personality or character.” Criticism can sometimes include dramatic words like “always” and “never.” Like all of the horsemen, criticism sabotages what you are trying to get […]
Predictors of Relationship Doom: the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”
A 4 part guide (5 part, if you count this intro) to help you from sabotaging your relationship. An Introduction Sabotage. Would you like to keep “sabotage” and “your relationship” far apart from each other? If so, it’s great to know what the “Four Horsemen” are, and what to do when they show up in […]
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