“post-election”

How odd to come back to something I haven’t done since right before the 2016 election when I posted the beautiful Mary Oliver poem, “Wild Geese.” (Mary Oliver has since died, in January of this year.) Since my last post, there have been numerous times in sessions where I have used the phrases “post-election” and […]

“we write our own daring endings”

Want to watch a two minute video which might be inspiring? It also gets to the heart of what Brené Brown’s latest book, Rising Strong, is all about—choosing realness, courage, vulnerability, and getting back up after falling. (If only there were more trailers for books…)

pema chodron on “this lousy world”

The Secret to Desire in a Long-term Relationship

Esther Perel’s intriguing 19 minute TED talk about desire, radiance, eroticism, and the poetics of sex in long-term relationships. In it, she talks about the commonalities of when people are most drawn to their partner and what comes from people answering the following prompts: “I shut myself off when…” “I turn off my desires when…” […]

exposing the “little haters” and their traps

“Little haters” seem to exist all around, so it makes sense they’d also be heard in our minds. The host of WBAI‘s “Underground Railroad,” Jay Smooth, made these two great 3-4 minute videos about those “little haters.” Check them out.

the days of awe

this is the time of year in the jewish calendar that is the most profound, a period of ten “High Holy Days” that begin the new jewish calendar year. these days are also called the “days of awe”. basically, there are three steps to these “days of awe”. they are for anyone who is inspired […]

Predictors of Relationship Doom: the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”

A 4 part guide (5 part, if you count this intro) to help you from sabotaging your relationship.  An Introduction Sabotage. Would you like to keep “sabotage” and “your relationship” far apart from each other? If so, it’s great to know what the “Four Horsemen” are, and what to do when they show up in […]

a root structure with smarts

i’m always searching for metaphors that help to understand complex aspects of life more succinctly. here is one i keep turning back to: the rhizome. rhizomes grow in the earth. they are a unique kind of root system. if roots were to organize in order to create a more sustainable root system that wasn’t dependent […]